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Writer's pictureAlana Blazevic

Nurturing Love: Keeping Your Relationship Happy When Kids Are Involved


As a mother of two lively boys, I've had the opportunity to experience firsthand the delicate balancing act of nurturing a happy and fulfilling relationship while raising children. This dual perspective has allowed me to gather valuable insights and tips along the way, which I'm excited to share with you. These strategies can help keep the flame of love burning bright amidst the beautiful chaos of parenthood:

  1. Prioritise Communication: In the whirlwind of parenting responsibilities, it's easy for communication between partners to take a back seat. Make it a priority to set aside time each day to connect and communicate openly with your partner. Share your thoughts, feelings, and concerns, and actively listen to theirs. Effective communication fosters understanding and strengthens your bond.

  2. Quality Time Together: While family time is precious, don't forget the importance of nurturing your relationship as a couple. Make it a point to set aside regular date nights or moments of intimacy to reconnect and enjoy each other's company. These moments are like little sparks that reignite the flame of your love, whether it's a quiet dinner at home after the kids are asleep or a hand-in-hand stroll. 

  3. Support Each Other's Roles: Parenting roles often come with their own set of challenges and responsibilities. Support each other in your respective roles as parents and partners. Acknowledge and appreciate each other's efforts, whether taking turns with nighttime feedings or cheering each other on during a particularly challenging day.

  4. Maintain Individual Identities: Parenthood is a beautiful journey, but it's essential not to lose sight of your individual identities outside of being Mom and Dad. Pursue your interests, hobbies, and passions, both individually and as a couple. Maintaining a sense of self enhances your personal fulfilment and enriches your relationship.

  5. Practice Patience and Flexibility: Parenting can be unpredictable, and challenges are bound to arise. Practice patience with each other as you navigate the ups and downs of parenthood. Be flexible and willing to adapt to changing circumstances, and remember that you're a team facing life's challenges together.

  6. Seek Support When Needed: Don't hesitate to seek support from friends, family, or a counsellor when needed. Parenthood can sometimes be overwhelming, and having a supportive network to lean on can make all the difference. Whether it's discussing parenting strategies or seeking guidance on relationship issues, reaching out for support is a sign of strength.

  7. Celebrate Milestones Together: Amidst the chaos of daily life, take the time to celebrate milestones and achievements together as a couple and as a family. Whether it's your child's first steps or a personal achievement, acknowledging and celebrating these moments strengthens your bond and creates lasting memories.


In conclusion, while parenting undoubtedly brings its share of challenges, it also offers countless opportunities to deepen your connection with your partner. By prioritising communication, carving out quality time together, supporting each other's roles, maintaining individual identities, practising patience and flexibility, seeking support when needed, and celebrating milestones together, you can nurture a happy and fulfilling relationship that thrives amidst the joys and challenges of parenthood.




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